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Friday, February 27, 2015

Don J. Gonsalves, Jr. sent you a video: "How to find and do work you love | Scott Dinsmore | TEDxGoldenGatePark (2D)"

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Great insight that will cause anyone to your search your soul for the reason you're on this planet.
How to find and do work you love | Scott Dinsmore | TEDxGoldenGatePark (2D)
Scott Dinsmore's mission is to change the world by helping people find what excites them and build a career around the work only they are capable of doing. He is a career change strategist whose demoralizing experience at a Fortune 500 job launched his quest to understand why 80% of adults hate the work they do, and more importantly, to identify what the other 20% were doing differently. His research led to experiences with thousands of employees and entrepreneurs from 158 countries. Scott distilled the results down to his Passionate Work Framework - three surprisingly simple practices for finding and doing work you love, that all happen to be completely within our control. He makes his career tools available free to the public through his community at

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Don J. Gonsalves, Jr. sent you a video: "The Most Important Word Ever"

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The Most Important Word Ever
Gary Vaynerchuk is a New York Times and Wall Street Journal Best-Selling author, self-taught wine expert, and innovative entrepreneur. Find more at

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Wednesday, February 25, 2015

Let them Go

"The unhappiest people in this world are the people who care the most about what everyone else thinks."

Mangosteen Fruit Shown to Kill Breast Cancer Cells

August 1, 2014

Researchers from the University of Chinese Academy of Sciences have discovered an incredible new benefit of the tropical fruit MangosteenA new study shows that Mangosteen contains a compound that triggers cell death in breast cancer cells.

Mangosteen contains a unique organic compound called alpha-mangostin. This compound has been shown to decrease the over-production of fatty acid synthase, or FAS, which is commonly linked to breast cancer. Alpha-mangostin noticeably regulates the expression of FAS and other key proteins involved in breast cancer cell death.

The UCAS scientists believe that this compound naturally found in Mangosteen could eventually become a viable treatment agent in breast cancer therapy. Mangosteen can also be used as a preventative to avoid the occurrence of breast cancer.

Mangosteen is commonly grown in Thailand, Malaysia, and other parts of Southeast Asia. It is made up of a hard, flexible outer skin with a soft, white flesh inside. The fruit inside has a very sweet and sour taste, and its texture is similar to the flesh inside of a lychee. It is still not very common among U.S. consumers, but its popularity is rapidly growing.

Mangosteen is currently available at John Vena, Inc., so come in and discover the many benefits of this tropical fruit.

Sunday, February 8, 2015

A Quote

“Each of us must make the personal choice to be a hero or not, to be committed to something bigger than ourselves or not, to go beyond the way we “wound up being” and have the purpose of our lives and our careers be about something that makes a difference or not, in other words, to be a leader or not.”

– Werner Erhard

Poem of Life

“Short this life is just one I’ve got finite in tenure whether I like it or not. Dead 
is embracing fear replacing dreams with ‘I cannot.’ Alive is taking a new step 
having a shot. I will do the impossible I will change the world I will give hope to 
a despairing nation I’ll give bread to a starving girl. I’ll break all the records I’ll 
do what’s never been done I’ll give and know love I’ll be a billionaire of fun.

What will you do with today this hour this minute? Will you fill with dull and 
fear or will you live it? I will not tolerate any foe no matter weapon or munition 
especially if that foe is within me in the form of fear or lack of ambition. Short 
this life is just one I’ve got. Finite in tenure whether I like it or not. As sure as 
the eagle I will fly ’cos I choose I choose to live until I die.”


Friday, February 6, 2015

Gaining Confidence When You Socialize : zen habits

A Quick Guide to Gaining Confidence When You Socialize

By Leo Babauta
I'm a shy person by nature, not a natural extrovert and definitely not comfortable in large groups of people. So if you're like me at all, then this guide is for you.
I've had to learn to be more confident in social situations, and it hasn't exactly been easy.
But some things I've learned how to do over the years:
  1. Introduce myself to new people and quickly find common ground.
  2. Be semi-comfortable in a party where I don't know most of the people.
  3. Be myself, or some version of that, rather than trying to impress people.
  4. Speak in front of a crowd of strangers (not comfortably, but I do OK).
  5. Talk comfortably one-on-one or in a small group, and not worry too much about whether people will like me.
  6. Make fairly authentic friendships with just a handful of deeper conversations.
I won't be able to teach you how I did all of that in one article, as it took me years to develop these skills, but today I'd like to share some things that might help you become more confident, and then to practice more.

On Relationships

First, we should quickly answer the question: why even bother? If going into awkward social situations is so tough, why put yourself through that discomfort?
Because relationships matter. They matter more than almost anything else, if you want to be happy and healthy and have a good job or thriving business. You can survive without good relationships, but you won't be living well.
If you learn to socialize fairly well, you can make a great group of close friends, have a slightly wider group of colleagues you trust and who like you, and maybe find your true love. At the very least, you'll have a social network that will keep you from being too lonely and help you when you need to talk.
So it's worth the effort.

On Practice

You can't read a guide to socializing and then instantly be good at it. You already know that. It takes practice — the more you do it, the better you'll get.
But how can you practice if you don't have the confidence yet? Having confidence makes it much easier to practice.
The answer is you do it in safer situations at first, and get a little practice there, and then move into less comfortable situations.
So practice socializing with friends or family or other people you know — this is Level 1. Then go into Level 2, where you have one stranger and one or two people you know, and get a little comfortable there. Then Level 3, where you have one person you know and a few you don't. Then Level 4, where you meet a stranger but in a situation where you're a little comfortable (your office or home or favorite hangout, for example). And Level 5 is where you meet one or two strangers in a strange place. Don't go to Level 6 or 7 right away, where you talk to a large crowd of unknown people in a party, or speak in front of a crowd.
Each level should be a little uncomfortable, but not so full of fear that you freeze up. Learn to work in discomfort.

How to Gain Confidence

OK, here's what I've found helpful:
  1. No one is free of self-doubts when it comes to socializing. They just seem more confident, but the self-doubts are there.
  2. If you try to be yourself, instead of impressing people, you can't fail. Of course, there's no single version of "yourself" — you're a wide range of different selves, and which side you choose to show is up to you …
  3. But don't be afraid to show the faults, the mistakes, the embarrassing moments, because sharing vulnerabilities makes people feel that you're more authentic, and they trust you more.
  4. Trust is much more important than impressing people.
  5. Assume the other person has good intentions. Assume there's a reasonable explanation for how they're acting, rather than assuming bad intentions.
  6. Confidence comes with practice. So practice even if you're not confident.
  7. The best way to practice a lot is to have fun when you practice. Play games with people — logic puzzles, group games, quizzes. Play a game with yourself, by seeing what kind of mnemonic devices you can come up with to remember people's names (picture them as an animal or funny object related to their name?), or challenging yourself to see how long you can listen without thinking of what you want to say next.
  8. Listen, and be curious.
  9. Admit when you're uncomfortable, and laugh about it. I've found this to be disarming — I say, "I'm not good at meeting new people, so feel free to laugh at me if I mess up." I also admit that I'm horrible at remembering names, so I tell them I'm going to say their name a few times to remember it. And admit that I'll probably forget it anyway!
  10. Try to find ways to go beyond the surface. Talking about your jobs and the weather are great, but what motivates the person? What drives them to get up out of bed? What are they passionate about? What are they afraid of? What embarrasses them? Be curious!
  11. Smile, and look them in the eye.
  12. Use their reactions to gauge interest rather than just talking.
  13. When you find yourself freezing up from fear, turn away from the thing you are imagining that you're afraid of, and turn toward the present moment — see how your body is feeling, notice the things around you, pay attention to people's faces.
  14. Ask yourself, "What's the worst thing that can happen?" The worst thing is usually that the other person won't like you, which isn't the end of the world. Your life isn't worse if someone doesn't like you, and is better if you make a friend, so the upside of interacting is much bigger than the downside.
This is just a start, of course, and you'll find strategies that work best for you. But practice these ideas in semi-uncomfortable situations with people, and you'll get good at them and gain the confidence you're seeking.

Help with Relationships

If you'd like to try a mindful practice of working on relationships, join me and the rest of the members of my Sea Change Program this month as we work on the Mindful Relationships habit for November.
In this habit, we'll have a plan and articles on the topic, along with a live webinar and forums where you can join an accountability team to help you stick to the habit.

Boost Your Self-Confidence

25 Killer Actions to Boost Your Self-Confidence

Once we believe in ourselves, we can risk curiosity, wonder, spontaneous delight, or any experience that reveals the human spirit. – E.E. Cummings
Post written by Leo Babauta. Follow me on Twitter.
One of the things that held me back from pursuing my dreams for many years was fear of failure … and the lack of self-confidence that I needed to overcome that fear.
It's something we all face, to some degree, I think. The key question: how do you overcome that fear?
By working on your self-confidence and self-esteem. Without really thinking of it in those terms, that's what I've been doing over the years, and that's what helped me finally overcome my fears, and finally pursue my dreams.
I still have those fears, undoubtedly. But now I know that I can beat them, that I can break through that wall of fear and come out on the other side. I've done it many times now, and that success will fuel further success.
This post was inspired by reader Nick from Finland, who asked for an article about self-worth and self-confidence:
Many of the things you propose make people feel better about themselves and actually help building self-confidence. However, I would be interested on reading your input in general on this topic. Taking time out for your own plans and dreams, doing things another way than most other people and generally not necessarily "fitting in" can be quite hard with a low self-confidence.
Truer words have never been spoken. It's near impossible to make time for your dreams, to break free from the traditional mold, and to truly be yourself, if you have low self-esteem and self-confidence.
As an aside, I know that some people make a strong distinction between self-esteem and self-confidence. In this article, I use them interchangeably, even if there is a subtle but perhaps important difference … the difference being whether you believe you're worthy of respect from others (self-esteem) and whether you believe in yourself (self-confidence). In the end, both amount to the same thing, and in the end, the actions I mention below give a boost to both self-esteem and self-confidence.
Taking control of your self-confidence
If you are low in self-confidence, is it possible to do things that will change that? Is your self-confidence in your control?
While it may not seem so, if you are low in self-confidence, I strongly believe that you can do things to increase your self-confidence. It is not genetic, and you do not have to be reliant on others to increase your self-confidence. And if you believe that you are not very competent, not very smart, not very attractive, etc. … that can be changed.
You can become someone worthy of respect, and someone who can pursue what he wants despite the naysaying of others.
You can do this by taking control of your life, and taking control of your self-confidence. By taking concrete actions that improve your competence, your self-image, you can increase that self-confidence, without the help of anyone else.
Below, I outline 25 things that will help you do that. None of them is revolutionary, none of them will do it all by themselves. The list certainly isn't comprehensive. These are just some of my favorite things, stuff that's worked for me.
And you don't need to do all of them, as if this were a recipe … pick and choose those that appeal to you, maybe just a couple at first, and give them a try. If they work, try others. If they don't, try others.
Here they are, in no particular order:
1. Groom yourself. This seems like such an obvious one, but it's amazing how much of a difference a shower and a shave can make in your feelings of self-confidence and for your self-image. There have been days when I turned my mood around completely with this one little thing.
2. Dress nicely. A corollary of the first item above … if you dress nicely, you'll feel good about yourself. You'll feel successful and presentable and ready to tackle the world. Now, dressing nicely means something different for everyone … it doesn't necessarily mean wearing a $500 outfit, but could mean casual clothes that are nice looking and presentable.
3. Photoshop your self-image. Our self-image means so much to us, more than we often realize. We have a mental picture of ourselves, and it determines how confident we are in ourselves. But this picture isn't fixed and immutable. You can change it. Use your mental Photoshopping skills, and work on your self-image. If it's not a very good one, change it. Figure out why you see yourself that way, and find a way to fix it.
4. Think positive. One of the things I learned when I started running, about two years ago, what how to replace negative thoughts (see next item) with positive ones. How I can actually change my thoughts, and by doing so make great things happened. With this tiny little skill, I was able to train for and run a marathon within a year. It sounds so trite, so Norman Vincent Peale, but my goodness this works. Seriously. Try it if you haven't.
5. Kill negative thoughts. Goes hand-in-hand with the above item, but it's so important that I made it a separate item. You have to learn to be aware of your self-talk, the thoughts you have about yourself and what you're doing. When I was running, sometimes my mind would start to say, "This is too hard. I want to stop and go watch TV." Well, I soon learned to recognize this negative self-talk, and soon I learned a trick that changed everything in my life: I would imagine that a negative thought was a bug, and I would vigilantly be on the lookout for these bugs. When I caught one, I would stomp on it (mentally of course) and squash it. Kill it dead. Then replace it with a positive one. ("C'mon, I can do this! Only one mile left!")
Know yourself and you will win all battles. – Sun Tzu
6. Get to know yourself. When going into battle, the wisest general learns to know his enemy very, very well. You can't defeat the enemy without knowing him. And when you're trying to overcome a negative self-image and replace it with self-confidence, your enemy is yourself. Get to know yourself well. Start listening to your thoughts. Start writing a journal about yourself, and about the thoughts you have about yourself, and analyzing why you have such negative thoughts. And then think about the good things about yourself, the things you can do well, the things you like. Start thinking about your limitations, and whether they're real limitations or just ones you've allowed to be placed there, artificially. Dig deep within yourself, and you'll come out (eventually) with even greater self-confidence.
7. Act positive. More than just thinking positive, you have to put it into action. Action, actually, is the key to developing self-confidence. It's one thing to learn to think positive, but when you start acting on it, you change yourself, one action at a time. You are what you do, and so if you change what you do, you change what you are. Act in a positive way, take action instead of telling yourself you can't, be positive. Talk to people in a positive way, put energy into your actions. You'll soon start to notice a difference.
8. Be kind and generous. Oh, so corny. If this is too corny for you, move on. But for the rest of you, know that being kind to others, and generous with yourself and your time and what you have, is a tremendous way to improve your self-image. You act in accordance with the Golden Rule, and you start to feel good about yourself, and to think that you are a good person. It does wonders for your self-confidence, believe me.
One important key to success is self-confidence. A key to self-confidence is preparation. – Arthur Ashe
9. Get prepared. It's hard to be confident in yourself if you don't think you'll do well at something. Beat that feeling by preparing yourself as much as possible. Think about taking an exam: if you haven't studied, you won't have much confidence in your abilities to do well on the exam. But if you studied your butt off, you're prepared, and you'll be much more confident. Now think of life as your exam, and prepare yourself.
10. Know your principles and live them. What are the principles upon which your life is built? If you don't know, you will have trouble, because your life will feel directionless. For myself, I try to live the Golden Rule (and fail often). This is my key principle, and I try to live my life in accordance with it. I have others, but they are mostly in some way related to this rule (the major exception being to "Live my Passion"). Think about your principles … you might have them but perhaps you haven't given them much thought. Now think about whether you actually live these principles, or if you just believe in them but don't act on them.
11. Speak slowly. Such a simple thing, but it can have a big difference in how others perceive you. A person in authority, with authority, speaks slowly. It shows confidence. A person who feels that he isn't worth listening to will speak quickly, because he doesn't want to keep others waiting on something not worthy of listening to. Even if you don't feel the confidence of someone who speaks slowly, try doing it a few times. It will make you feel more confident. Of course, don't take it to an extreme, but just don't sound rushed either.
12. Stand tall. I have horrible posture, so it will sound hypocritical for me to give this advice, but I know it works because I try it often. When I remind myself to stand tall and straight, I feel better about myself. I imagine that a rope is pulling the top of my head toward the sky, and the rest of my body straightens accordingly. As an aside, people who stand tall and confident are more attractive. That's a good thing any day, in my book.
13. Increase competence. How do you feel more competent? By becoming more competent. And how do you do that? By studying and practicing. Just do small bits at a time. If you want to be a more competent writer, for example, don't try to tackle the entire profession of writing all at once. Just begin to write more. Journal, blog, write short stories, do some freelance writing. The more you write, the better you'll be. Set aside 30 minutes a day to write (for example), and the practice will increase your competence.
14. Set a small goal and achieve it. People often make the mistake of shooting for the moon, and then when they fail, they get discouraged. Instead, shoot for something much more achievable. Set a goal you know you can achieve, and then achieve it. You'll feel good about that. Now set another small goal and achieve that. The more you achieve small goals, the better you'll be at it, and the better you'll feel. Soon you'll be setting bigger (but still achievable) goals and achieving those too.
15. Change a small habit. Not a big one, like quitting smoking. Just a small one, like writing things down. Or waking up 10 minutes earlier. Or drinking a glass of water when you wake up. Something small that you know you can do. Do it for a month. When you've accomplished it, you'll feel like a million bucks.
16. Focus on solutions. If you are a complainer, or focus on problems, change your focus now. Focusing on solutions instead of problems is one of the best things you can do for your confidence and your career. "I'm fat and lazy!" So how can you solve that? "But I can't motivate myself!" So how can you solve that? "But I have no energy!" So what's the solution?
17. Smile. Another trite one. But it works. I feel instantly better when I smile, and it helps me to be kinder to others as well. A little tiny thing that can have a chain reaction. Not a bad investment of your time and energy.
18. Volunteer. Related to the "be kind and generous" item above, but more specific. It's the holiday season right now … can you find the time to volunteer for a good cause, to spread some holiday cheer, to make the lives of others better? It'll be some of the best time you've ever spent, and an amazing side benefit is that you'll feel better about yourself, instantly.
19. Be grateful. I'm a firm believer in gratitude, as anyone who's been reading this blog for very long knows well. But I put it here because while being grateful for what you have in life, for what others have given you, is a very humbling activity … it can also be a very positive and rewarding activity that will improve your self-image. Read more.
20. Exercise. Gosh, I seem to put this one on almost every list. But if I left it off this list I would be doing you a disservice. Exercise has been one of my most empowering activities in the last couple years, and it has made me feel so much better about myself.
All you have to do is take a walk a few times a week, and you'll see benefits. Start the habit.
21. Empower yourself with knowledge. Empowering yourself, in general, is one of the best strategies for building self-confidence. You can do that in many ways, but one of the surest ways to empower yourself is through knowledge. This is along the same vein as building competence and getting prepared … by becoming more knowledgeable, you'll be more confident … and you become more knowledgeable by doing research and studying. The Internet is a great tool, of course, but so are the people around you, people who have done what you want, books, magazines, and educational institutions.
22. Do something you've been procrastinating on. What's on your to-do list that's been sitting there? Do it first thing in the morning, and get it out of the way. You'll feel great about yourself.
23. Get active. Doing something is almost always better than not doing anything. Of course, doing something could lead to mistakes … but mistakes are a part of life. It's how we learn. Without mistakes, we'd never get better. So don't worry about those. Just do something. Get off your butt and get active — physically, or active by taking steps to accomplish something.
24. Work on small things. Trying to take on a huge project or task can be overwhelming and daunting and intimidating for anyone, even the best of us. Instead, learn to break off small chunks and work in bursts. Small little achievements make you feel good, and they add up to big achievements. Learn to work like this all the time, and soon you'll be a self-confident maniac.
25. Clear your desk. This might seem like a small, simple thing (then again, for some of you it might not be so small). But it has always worked wonders for me. If my desk starts to get messy, and the world around me is in chaos, clearing off my desk is my way of getting a little piece of my life under control. It is the calm in the center of the storm around me. Here's how.
Somehow I can't believe that there are any heights that can't be scaled by a man who knows the secrets of making dreams come true. This special secret, it seems to me, can be summarized in four C s. They are curiosity, confidence, courage, and constancy, and the greatest of all is confidence. When you believe in a thing, believe in it all the way, implicitly and unquestionable. – Walt Disney

Read more about simple productivity, focus and getting great things done in my book, The Power of Less.